Dear Abby: Selfish husband says he’s ‘changed’
Dear Abby My husband and I have been married years but the last years have been extremely laborious His attitude and selfishness during that time led me to strongly resent him He s now telling me he has changed and things will be different that I am major to him and he will consider my thoughts feelings wants and necessities going forward The predicament I m having is he didn t decide this until I certainly had enough and moved out How do I decide what is best for me I love him and at his core he is a good person but sometimes I feel like there s too much water under the bridge Just Not Sure in Illinois Dear Just Not Sure For a leopard to change his spots takes effort It doesn t happen overnight Do not go back to your husband before the two of you have had counseling with a licensed marriage and family therapist for one year If after that he has proven that he s capable of change you can decide then whether there has been too much water under the bridge or you feel safe living with him again Dear Abby I had an accident and have been in a walking boot for a insufficient weeks with several more to go This has happened before unfortunately I am regularly annoyed by strangers who feel compelled to comment about the boot Oh did you kick someone or Hey what happened I don t think I owe a stranger an explanation of the state of my body It s none of their business First please remind your readers that this behavior is intrusive and rude Second what is an appropriate response to these insensitive people I have gone from light jokes You should have seen the sidewalk when I got through with it to ignoring them Nothing seems to shut it down Hobbled in Georgia Dear Hobbled If you think you re alone in being subjected to this annoyance think again People are curious and particular have little or no filter None of them are actively trying to be offensive Because nothing seems to shut it down hang on to your sense of humor Your light joke is upbeat and clever My advice is to stick to it Dear Abby My wife and I are staying with my in-laws while our house undergoes renovations It s day three now and I heard my father-in-law sneak another woman into the basement last night while everyone was asleep Do I say something and hazard getting kicked out or starting a family war He s the sole earner and it s his house Or do I bite my tongue and keep this information to myself Saw Too Much Dear Saw Too Much Although you may have heard it you didn t definitely see anything Chalk it up to having had a nightmare and remain silent at least until you are out from under your in-laws roof Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA
